I’m sharing tips on little tweaks you can make to take better care of yourself in the new year! First up — the place where you rest your head!
Yes, this was supposed to be published on Saturday. What can I say? I am learning to give myself grace in the new year. I promise that the next post will be on TIME! Probably.
So. Self-care! I know that it’s a super trendy phrase right now, so if you’re rolling your eyes…I get it. And by all means, self-care is nothing new. To be clear, I couldn’t care less WHAT you call it, but I do want to take a minute to talk about about practicing it, why it’s so important, and why I decided to start a new series on it.
I told you on my birthday that 2017 was not my favorite. Besides struggling in a lot of ways that were difficult to explain, I also went through a pretty rough patch of depression. Most of you know that I do take medicine for anxiety disorder and depression regularly, but a couple of weeks ago I made the decision to speak with my doctor about changing my medications. It was hands-down, the best way I could have started off my new year. My only regret is that I didn’t abandon my pride (and fear of side effects) sooner, because I feel SO much more energetic and hopeful!
With that said, I am making 2018 the time to make a concerted effort to be my very best self — physically, mentally, and professionally. And what I would LOVE to do this year is take a little bit of time every week to share some methods or products you can incorporate into your life to help you become healthier, more productive, or just plain HAPPY!
Are you in?
The topic of today’s post is a subject I am particularly passionate about — the bedroom! Ask any of my friends and they will tell you that any gathering usually ends with us snuggled in my bed under fuzzy throw blankets, watching bad movies with a glass of wine. It’s my very favorite spot in the ENTIRE house when I want to unwind, relax, or recharge.
A few things I want to get out of the way:
Most parents I know use their bedroom as a sort of catch-all — piles of clean clothes that need folded, baby toys that need donated — DO NOT DO THIS. Find another spot for this crap. Whether it’s under a comforter in the corner of your living room, in a spare bedroom, or stashed in a closet, FOR THE LOVE FIGURE IT OUT. It’s impossible to relax when you’re looking at piles of chores that need tended to. When you shut your bedroom door, you should be shutting ALL CHORES and chaos OUTTTTT.
No photos of your kids! I love my kids. I am practically obsessed with them. So much so that there are photos of them covering the ENTIRE HOUSE. Except for…my bedroom. Whether you’re single, married, or in a relationship, your room should reflect things YOU or YOU and YOUR PARTNER love. Because sometimes you need a break and a place to be…YOURSELF! Not a mom. Just you.
PUT A LOCK ON THE DARN DOOR. Even if you never use it, you know that it’s there. And sometimes, knowing that it’s an option is enough to keep you sane.
Nursing a new baby? Don’t let baby stuff take over the entire room if you can help it. Keep it relegated to a corner or specific area so when you retreat for a much-needed nap (ever have someone offer to babysit but instead of going out, all you wanted was a nap? MAKE SURE YOUR ROOM IS A GREAT PLACE FOR THAT), you’re not looking at piles and piles of baby stuff strewn all around.
Soooo…no photos of your kids….no piles of laundry…so what DO you put in your room?
I AM SO GLAD YOU ASKED!! The answer? All KINDS of stuff.
My husband converted our garage into a larger master bedroom for us a couple of years ago, and I had a super tight budget to decorate with. And luckily, there are so many ways to add coziness and personality to your room without breaking the bank. Here are some ways I’ve made my bedroom the most comfortable and relaxing place in the house:
Fake plants, real plants, any greenery is good greenery. I love the bright and cozy feeling that plants add to any room, but I particularly love them in my bedroom. I have a couple of hanging plants in front of my windows as well as a few fake succulents. I think I got these at Lowe’s for around $6 each, which is crazy considering how much they’ve changed the room.
Stacks of books!
My husband and I own a bunch of books that were just sitting in boxes (we always have something we are interested in or want to learn to do), so I used some of them to decorate our room! Arrange in cute stacks and place on shelves with cheap knickknacks. Done.
I get compliments on how my house smells ALL THE TIME, and that’s probably because it smells like my favorite place — the spa! You can buy diffusers and large bottles of oils on Amazon relatively inexpensively and they last forever! I prefer a mix of lavender, peppermint, and grapefruit. Seriously the best and most relaxing scent ever.
Soft, cozy lighting
I DESPISE overhead lighting. Soft, cozy lamps and twinkle lights are WHERE IT’S AT and you’ll never regret ditching that harsh overhead light for good. Think of all of the most relaxing places you’ve spent time — was there a harsh light shining in your face? OF COURSE NOT.
Lamps don’t have to be expensive — just make sure you use soft light bulbs and not harsh daylight bulbs. I love THESE fairy lights for wrapping around just about anything from a headboard to a dresser or a shelf — they come with a remote control so you can turn them off or make them twinkle!
I just ordered THESE fun lights to put in empty wine bottles. How fun are they for decorating your room and giving off a nice glow?
Candles instantly make any room more cozy – and they can be so inexpensive! The candles above are ones I received in the mail from a client — just cheap little candles that I almost tossed in the bin we use when the power goes out! Instead, I found a cute dinner plate I had in the cupboard, some leftover rocks from the craft store, and arranged this little centerpiece. Cute, right?
If you love dozing off to candlelight, consider these battery-operated ones that come with a remote control. As much as I love candles, I will not sleep with one burning, and this is a much safer option. You don’t even have to get out of bed if you want to put them out!
My husband LOVES photography, so I put these two old cameras on a shelf with one of his favorite books of photos. Some other ideas are a cute ball of yarn and old knitting needles, some vintage baking pans, an old sewing machine or a dress form — there are always ways to put your passions on display! Who doesn’t love being surrounded by what they love to do?
YES. I have an entire drawer dedicated to candies and crackers and some of my favorite snacks. I also have a small bar area set up. Because sometimes….when you close yourself in that room…you do NOT want to have to walk past your son in the living room who will inevitably ask about a meal or will you watch this YouTube video or hey mom hey mom hey mom.
If a mini bar isn’t your thing, plug in an electric kettle full of water and keep a basket of teas and a few cute mugs nearby. Buy an inexpensive minifridge and fill it with the fancy sodas that you don’t want to share. YOU DESERVE IT.
Things That Have Meaning (besides your children)
I cross-stitched this for my husband in the first years of our relationship, and it’s perfect in our bedroom. It always makes me smile!
Fill in blank spots with any wall decor that catches your eye. I find things at Hobby Lobby or Wayfair most often, and this large canvas is one of my favorites.
There are a few more things I have on my To-Buy list (otherwise known as my permanently full Amazon cart), that I want for making our room a little more spa-like. Here are some of the items on that list, just to give you some inexpensive ideas to help your time in your room be more relaxing.
Macrame Plant Hangers (I JUST LOVE THEM!!!)
Tabletop Fountain (I love the way they sound whenever I’m lucky enough to book a massage on vacation)
Himalayan Salt Lamp (Do they work? Idk. Do they look nice and make me feel cozy? Yes.)
Plushy, Shaggy Throw Blankets (NEVER too many throw blankets!! Am I right?)
Pillow Bolster (they feel so good under your knees when you’re reading or relaxing)
I’d love to hear what you’ve been doing lately to take care of yourselves! Have a happy day and thanks so much for reading!!