Hey, friends, hey!
Sassy spice is back with another cooking video, and this week she’s making Sassy Spice Girl Cake!
I shared this video on my Facebook page earlier this week and unfortunately received some comments and messages from readers who took issue with Lucy wearing lipstick in the video. One woman actually let me know that she expected me to know better, considering that I was sexually abused as a child.
There are so many things I want to say about this that I don’t even know where to start. I rarely get upset by online criticism, but the fact that someone would actually believe that lipstick or a furry vest or clip on earrings had anything to do with being sexually abused? We have a long LONG ways to go in regards to making the world a safer place, particularly for women and victims of sexual assault. Clearly.
Know this about my daughter — she loves cooking and pretending to be a super hero. She loves plastic dinosaur figures and army men and baby dolls. Lucy will sit and draw for HOURS, creating all sorts of landscapes and drawing our family, holding hands, into every one. She’s infuriatingly stubborn and quick with a compliment — she never misses a new outfit, a great pair of shoes, or when someone has made particular effort. Her favorite movies are Harry and the Hendersons and Moana and The Little Rascals and The Wizard of Oz and The Pacifier and Trolls. She’s hilarious and great at imitations and facial expressions. And she will eat piles of sour cream with her bare hands. It’s gross but whatever. There are worse things.
She also loves makeup. Probably because I love it. And when we are at home and she’s dressing up or just feels like putting my makeup on, I let her. Just like I let her wear a Ninja Turtle mask or change her clothes AGAIN for the 947th time or draw a smiley face on her hand or fight with a fake sword. I let her because it makes her happy and it’s not hurting anything. And I let her because I am confident that she knows what makes her beautiful. Her beauty is in her spirit and her humor and in that freckle on the top part of her nose that scrunches up when she smiles.
So if you are concerned, please do not be. I am very deliberately raising a daughter who is fierce and funny and confident and interesting. It’s a full-time job, so we don’t have time to the sweat small stuff.
I hope you enjoy her Sassy Spice Cake! Have a great day!