I’m sharing why creating a mission statement for your kids is important, and what is on my list!
A couple of years ago, I read an online article about creating a mission statement for your family. A list of values and phrases that define you as a group, which helps guides your actions as a family.
I thought it was one of the best ideas I’d ever heard. What a simple way of setting a clear and intentional vision for your family.
As I thought about it and talked with my husband, I realized that it was just as important to create a mission statement for my kids. If I could map out a clear vision of what values and habits I want for them, it makes my job of disciplining and making decisions for them a lot more clear. So I spent some time thinking and came up with a list. Nothing crazy that had to be designed with a pretty font and printed out — I just typed it into my phone. But I can’t stress how important this is for my day to day interactions with my kids.
Even as I spend my days with Lucy who is only 2, I sometimes find myself referring to my list. Is my reaction to this situation in line with my Mission Statement for her? Should I give in to her tears, or is there a discipline that is necessary to set her on the path I want her to be on?
Here is my Mission Statement for my kids. I want to raise my kids be:
This means respect for authority, respect for their things, respect for themselves, and respect for any living thing. I want my kids to do what is asked of them by their teachers, babysitters, or any adult in charge with courtesy and promptness. I want my kids to show respect for the things that have been given to them by taking care of them and keeping them clean. I want my kids to treat others with kindness and decency, realizing that your sex, race, gender, or social status has no effect on the respect you are due as a human being. I also want my kids to respect their hearts and their bodies and know that anyone they share it with is being given a tremendous gift.
I want my kids to make decisions and stand behind them. This means raising them with confidence in themselves, and raising them with the ability to weigh pros and cons before making a decision. I want my kids to understand that they make their own decisions — not their friends and not pop culture.
Thoughtful towards other people, which means noticing when someone is hurting, sad, or in need of help. Thoughtful in regards to events around them, which means being aware of their surroundings and situations. I want my kids to take the time to think and process things they hear about and things that hurt them instead of pushing them aside and simply being task driven.
Appreciative for what they’ve been given, appreciative for another day, appreciative for the day when they have a job to go to where they can earn money to spend. People who appreciate things are so much more pleasant to be around, and so much more fulfilled in their day to day lives.
Having interests is important. I don’t care if those interests are reading or chess or football or competitive pogo-sticking. Having interests makes you more fulfilled, which makes you less likely to seek fulfillment from unhealthy relationships. Having interests also makes you interesting and have something positive to contribute to the world.
Lying not only destroys trust, but it makes you have a false sense of entitlement and superiority. Telling the truth is humbling and necessary.
There are times in your life when all you can do is pray. Do it deliberately and do it often. Having a full prayer life requires you spend time focusing on others around you who need help or healing.
Never underestimate the power that laughter has on others. It heals hurts and brings people together. As long as you have a marriage full of laughter, you can work through almost anything.
In my opinion, loyalty is one of the rarest but MOST appreciated quality a person can have. Loyalty is not just about the other person — it’s about staying true to who you are and what you value.
This is such a simple thing that it almost seems unnecessary, but I can’t stress to you how much it helps in keeping me accountable. It’s truly one of the best things I can do as a mom, both for my kids and for myself. My Mission Statement helps keep me from the temptation to give in when I shouldn’t, and it also helps serve as a reminder to set an example of love, patience, and fun.
There are times when I catch Jon David lying and are tempted to let it slide (“oh…” I’ll tell myself. “It was just a tiny lie about brushing his teeth…”) but then I think about my Mission Statement and know that it needs to be addressed. Honesty is one of my most important goals for him and I have to be intentional about it.
I’d love to encourage you to brainstorm a mission list for your kiddos (and then share it with me because these kiddos are making me crazy and I think I must have left something off).
Have a great day, friends! Thanks for reading.