Hey you, mom lady.
It’s almost your big day!
If you’re new to this, I bet you’re excited. I still am. Ten years ago..I never imagined Mother’s Day would become my favorite holiday. But it has.
Let me tell you a secret, new moms. Once preschool or kindergarten starts, it gets even better. My favorite gift every year? The one Jon David hauls out of his backpack proudly. Wrinkled, crumpled at the edges, crafted under his teacher’s supervision and hidden in secret all weekend.
That, new moms, is the best.
But every day isn’t Mother’s Day, is it? Monday will roll around and life will go back to normal. Dirty socks and forgotten thank yous will replace the homemade gifts and breakfast in bed.
So I’m telling you a few things you might need to hear. Maybe not Monday, but maybe Thursday, or next month, or once the terrible twos hit (if we are being honest, it’s the threes that are the hardest). Regardless of when you might need it, I hope that it makes you smile and makes you feel less alone.
If not, there’s always wine.
1. Being a mom is hard.
It just is. But I don’t mean hard in the way of dirty diapers and tantrums and crayon scribbles on the wall. I mean the incredible love you feel in your heart every day. It’s terrifying. The day you become a mom is the day you realize that you would literally die for someone. How can being THAT vulnerable not be one of the scariest things ever?
2. You will make mistakes.
When you do, let them humble you. And let that humbleness plant a seed of grace in your heart, because one day you will see another mom make a mistake, too. And before you make judgement and state opinions, revisit that grace. Chances are, you’ve got a field full of seeds planted that you’ve forgotten.
3. Kids really don’t remember stuff before the age of three.
So what I’m saying is, if you need to lose your shiz, if you need to scream in a pillow or let the house stay a mess or eat a cold hot dog for lunch, you basically have no witnesses.
4. A cookie for breakfast never killed anyone.
Unless that anyone is highly allergic to nuts and that cookie was packaged in a facility that processes peanuts.
5. Buy yourself something.
A toddler only needs so many shoes, and I can guarantee you that you’ll appreciate something new way more than they will. Seriously, my daughter is thrilled with an empty sour cream container.
6. People that tell you to nap when the baby naps are chumps.
It’s impossible. When would you get anything done? All us moms totally get it. Why do people keep churning out that line of crap? Need a nap? Call a grandma, or your significant other, or even a trusted teenager and for the love of Pete, have them play with the baby while the baby is AWAKE!! You nap, the baby gets worn out, and by the time you wake up refreshed, the baby is ready to sleep. Do some laundry, take a shower, throw something in the crockpot, win win.
7. The occasional bribe is okay.
I know there’s a myth that bribing your kids is “frowned upon” but I barely know any adults who do things they hate for free. Honestly, grown ups are hypocrites. If a $4 book or a candy bar get you through grocery shopping with your sanity intact, DO IT.
8. If a kid doesn’t want to eat broccoli, it’s REALLY hard to get them to eat broccoli.
People have lots of opinions on force feeding kids things that make them want to vomit. Do you like wanting to vomit? Trying new things is great, just pick your battles is all I’m saying.
9. Sometimes you will see moms that look like they have it figured out way better than you.
It’s all lies and illusions. Moms are the strongest people in the world. And what do strong people do? They put on a brave face, they go out in the world, and they kick butt the best they can. Don’t mistake a brave face for a better parent. We are all just doing the best we can.
10. There are times you will feel like you CAN NOT DO IT.
Not for another minute, let alone 18 years. But you listen to me carefully — whether you are an adoptive mom or a birth mom, God choose YOU, and God does NOT make mistakes. He choose you carefully and perfectly, and you are the only parent that will ever do. He has faith in you, so have faith in yourself.
So, moms…new moms, old moms, all the moms of the land — know that Mother’s Day will end, and your job will go on. But we are all fighting the same fight. We all see each other. I see you, and I think you are the best mom in the world. Your kid does, too.
Happy Mother’s Day!!