It’s almost MOTHER’S DAAAYYYY!!!!
After Christmas, Mother’s Day is my favorite day of the year. Mostly because I love that I get to feel proud of what I accomplished, snuggle my babies, and feel really loved. Best ever!!
Since the BIG DAY is fast approaching, I thought I’d address one of the questions that is posted in comments or emailed to me all the time.
“How do you get all this baking done with an infant?”
It’s super, duper hard.
I know it’s easy to look at snapshots of happy kids and adorable food and wonder what you are doing wrong. Because I do it, too.
But for every snapshot, every perfect little second captured with my iPhone or camera, there are a zillion moments you don’t see.
The times where I’m on the computer typing up posts at 10 pm, when I’d rather be on the couch snuggling with my husband.
My messy kitchen.
Me arguing with my husband because he isn’t a mind reader, and didn’t immediately start folding laundry when he got home from work.
Me trying to check homework while I nurse a fussy baby and deal with a splitting headache.
None of us have a special trick. None of us have a magical baby that doesn’t cry, or super strength that makes it possible to do ALLLLL the things with an infant in tow. It just looks that way sometimes.
And if we are REALLY being honest here, I pay someone to clean my house once a week. And ya’ll…it’s such a relief to have that weight off my shoulders. I’m not rich, I don’t live in a big house, but that extravagance…it’s a big deal to me and it makes my life SO MUCH EASIER.
There have been days I sat on my couch at night and cried and told my husband I was quitting my blog. It was too hard, babies are too hard, I just can’t do it all.
But then I’d remember how LONG it took me to build my site to what it is. And I’d remember what inspired me to start it to begin with — I loved baking blogs, but felt like there weren’t a lot of moms who spoke to ME. Imperfect, a little crazy, and inexperienced in the kitchen. When I first started staying at home when my son was born 8 years ago, finding a passion and a hobby in baking saved me. In a world where everything I do revolved around my family and their needs, it gave me something for ME. Something to be proud of, and to get excited about. And after reading blogs for years, I realized that I wanted to speak to the “ME’s” out there who needed something to get excited about.
I wanted to encourage. To say, you don’t have to be PERFECT to be FABULOUS. If I can make this — me with my flaws and my busy life — so can you.
So I keep at it, because I know Lucy will grow up and things will get easier.
I try hard to find a balance — I only have one chance at leaving a legacy for my kids, and while it’s great for them to see me chasing my dream, I don’t want them to feel that I’m more absorbed in the opinions of strangers than my relationship with them.
So sometimes, that means working late when I really don’t want to.
Sometimes that means baking, long after the dinner dishes are cleaned and put away.
So just know, if you barely have time for a shower, you feel half crazed, and you’re wondering what you are doing wrong…the answer is simple.
This site is meant to be an escape of sorts. You come, you laugh, you look at pretty pictures of food, and maybe feel inspired to try a few recipes. It’s fun on purpose. But real life isn’t like that.
So please, PLEASE, don’t ever compare my snapshots to your real life. Because in the big picture, this isn’t my real life all the time either.
Now, on to what I did this week!!
Peanut Butter Overload Bars. They are a must.
I love to read!! I’m sharing my Reading List for May HERE.
And I’m recapping the week in Pop Culture HERE. I don’t know why I care about such things, but sadly…I do. I really do.
That’s it for this week!!
Have a fabulous weekend and enjoy your Mother’s Day!!